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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Fladian" data-source="post: 124547" data-attributes="member: 5833">Well, it's just a minor problem of me which is related to my shyness of some years ago. I need a long span of time to adjust to a new enviroment with new people - such as a new (school) class, new section at work or just going out - which often results into annoyance for me. There is no real way to help me adjust faster, regardless of how nice those people are.Well, there is one way. Get me drunk. I don't act much differently than normal when being drunk, but I adjust a lot faster to the enviroment. I act completely similar when not being drunk and adjusted to the enviroment, so... I don't mind eitherway/Nonsense. You should just ignore such things. A former classmate of mine once told me: "If I never made a move on her, we never would have gotten together. In the end, we surprised just about everyone that we had something together." I kept it in mind back then, but it wasn't very useful for me in the end.Quite popular then, eh? It's hard to say on my school that pretty much everyone knows a specific person... it's a big school after all. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite7" alt=":p" title="Stick Out Tongue    :p" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":p" /> I did make a (small) name for myself out there though.But I'd say: Screw the others, this is about you, you could care less what others might think of it.I know a few people who are completely similar to that. Both made (quite an number of) appearances in my Quote of the Day (and Quote of the Month). Elianne and Shaymaa (both friends) are similar. They are always happy, regardless of what is going on ("Hey Elianne, you gained weight, didn't you?" - Shaymaa, a friend. "I'm already fat anyway. One more or less doesn't make a difference." - Elianne, a friend.) and regardless of what is happening around them. I never understood Elianne ("Right, Ed?") how she could remain so happy, so cheery while being quite... sick a while ago. She looked as if she was falling apart when she was with me, but she looked quite cheery when we were with the others.In all honestly, Shaymaa is a person I've never really understood. Even though she's three years older than me - I look young, she looks younger <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite7" alt=":p" title="Stick Out Tongue    :p" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":p" /> - I look at her as if she was my younger sister and she acts that way too ("You're my baby, aren't you, Erwin?"). I'm pretty fond of her, and she about me and she was one of my first friends from my first year at College. A bit blunt sometimes (see earlier quote), but always nice in her own kind of way, which is appreciated by just about everyone.Shaymaa and Elianne have the fact that no one can dislike them in common. I happened to become friends with both during one of my school years. I also find it extremely remarkable that it looks as if they are never in a bad mood. Never have I seen them with a frown on their faces. Elianne never looked sad to me (sick, yes, but not sad), not even when she failed her car license a second time. Shaymaa never gave a sign of not being happy either. She even kept smiling when she heard she had to redo the year because she failed. I'm not sure how others would react, but I would be quite mad after hearing both things if they would happen to me.However, that kind of personality has a down side. A big down side, mind you. They attract all kind of people to them, and those people aren't always the kind that you want around. One of them had a massive amount of attention from two specific guys somewhere last year. Clearly more than she wanted from one, especially when he started to lie at a certain spot. "Annoying, wasn't he?" Is what she told me after talking about him later. As for the other guy... I'm not sure what his plans are; eitherway, the other guy has given up, and leaves her alone... mostly. Though would only be logical too, knowing she already had a (long termed) relationship.I personally have feelings for a girl with charastics similar to that. But I'm pretty much out of the question. Logical too, as I knew from the start that I didn't stand a chance to someone who already had a relationship for such a time. But oh well...That is possible to change. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite7" alt=":p" title="Stick Out Tongue    :p" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":p" />It's no secret that I have been extremely shy in just about everything and I really lacked the courage to do a lot of stuff. Within two years of time (though most changes were done in half a year) I changed into a completely different person, something which made me quite happy. Despite that the 'change' was complete after half a year, my personality wasn't constant. The one day I was outgoing, the other day I was shy again - which really annoyed me, but I had no control over it. One single person I know from last year (unaware) completely changed that. She gave me the last push I was in need of... apparently. Since then I have a constant personality (finally).You could always try something similar to me. My motivation to change was a messed up confession from my side ("Congratulations") and a scar on my right wrist - which is pretty much gone now. I can relate to that pretty much, though my range is bigger. My personality is turned upside down when I'm among guys or girls. I'm the type of person which fits in the category. I'm nice, sensitive and thoughtful among girls, but I'm completely different when I'm just among guys. The switch every time is tiresome though.But the way I act to some people is... different. I mentioned earlier that Shaymaa is like a younger sister to me, and I act somewhat protective over her. But not just her. A few friends of her are people I am fond of as well, and I wouldn't wish them harm in any way. Just today, I grabbed a 'friend' at his shirt because he was imitating one of those girls - one of them speaks pretty... uh... rubbish Dutch - and I truly don't appreciate that.The way I am towards some others is different as well. I am being blamed as a 'very nice' guy by some people, but my definition of 'nice' is very different than what they are referring to. ("Nice, you say? I was hesitating to destroy the good name of a school for a few friends. Do you call that nice?!" - Me, 3 or 4 months ago. "I killed off a friendship that lasted more than 10 years just for you. Is that nice?") I do like to 'play' with some people though. Take Elianne as example, she always looks tired ("Maybe I should let my blood check"), and I really am the kind of person that likes to point her to it ("Tired again? Or just being plain lazy?"). I do have to watch my words at some point though. Last time I yawned while she was within ranged, I immediately got a finger pointed at me, combined with the words: 'Busted!'As long as I am liked by those I hold dear.Agreed at this point too, but unfortunately, I've seen it far too often how it could go bad. Generally seen, I'm a friendly guy, but you'll have to get to know me first, and that is a chance people pass on far too often. But that isn't just for me, - I have an Asian look - some others, like Shaymaa, have a similar problem. If you get to know her, she's a great girl. But only if you get to know her, which doesn't happen enough either. If she and I didn't become classmates in our first year, I'd probably never would have spoken to her. ("Meneeeeeeeeeeeee~r!" - Hamida, a friend)Nah, you're just worried. Just go up and talk to her.I'm a lot more worried here. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite7" alt=":p" title="Stick Out Tongue    :p" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":p" /> Last friday (last time I spoke to her, excluding today) I kissed her to wish her luck. She gave no (particular) reaction to it - maybe because we were late to go to class - but she was a bit... 'quiet' today. I expected her very cheery. I didn't get the chance to give her her present yet either.</blockquote>

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